Etiquette when you are a newcomer..

Hye Assalamualaikum,



 Today I want to talk about the etiquette when you are a newcomer.

 Firstly don't 'SHOW-OFFS'. It is rude and useless to try to impress old timers by telling them how much better your old company handled matters or to point out mistake you see them making.Once you have established a working relationship with the other workers and with the manager,this is because your suggestions stand a much better chance of being accepted instead of resented.

Secondly is 'TOO FREINDLY TOO SOON'.Use some restrain in yourfirst few days on a new job.Give those already on the job a chance to make the freindly advances.

Thirdly is 'WHEN YOU ARE INVITED TO LUNCH'.Here are some tips, on our first day, a few persons may ask you to have lunch with them. Generally, you are expected to pay for your own lunch, even if your immediate superior is in the group.If you immediate superior invites you to have lunch with him or her alone,generally the superior pays for your lunch.

Lastly is 'USE OF FIRST NAMES IN THE OFFICE'. Basically, most modern offices are informal, and the use of first names among fellow employees is the usual practice. Nowadays, even in such office, there are situations where it is improper not to use a title (Mr.,Miss., Ms.,)and the last name.

Remember; the basic and most importnt rule is simple: you may follow the practice that has been established in your particular office.

How To Deal With Office Politics?



Hye Assalamualaikum

 Today my topic is about ‘How To Deal With Office Politics’. Sound serious right. OK let me explain, there are two ways to deal with office political that is Unethical practices and Dealing with the unethical co-worker.

Unethical practices. Competition is healthy and desirable in most circumstances, but when the motivation to gain recognition and get ahead causes irrational, unethical behavior, it is clearly unhealthy. Honest, hard work, in the spirit of teamwork and cooperation, is the only ethical way to secure a raise or promotion. This type of challenge to a co-worker is natural and common. But unfair schemes and secret ploys to discredit and outdistance competing co-workers are unthinkable to an honest. Responsible person.

 Last but not least is dealing with the unethical co-worker .If you are forced to deal with a co-worker who I action questionably in efforts to gain some favor or recognition above you do not be pushed into using similar strategy. Continue to work responsibly and see that your actions are fair and open for all to see. You may have to be patient, but keep in ,mind that there is something to the cliché that if you give people enough rope they will hang themselves.

 

Making A Good First Impression



Hello and Assalamualaikum

  Today my topic is about in ‘Making A Good First Impression’. What do you understand about this topic? For who do not know, let ne briefly explain to you. First of all, ‘what’ you say ‘how’ you say it is the name of the game.

  Establishing rapport with others begins with an introduction. The way you participate in an introduction sends many messages about you to others.

  It tells them whether you take the initiative, or whether you wait for others to set the tone. It displays your people skills or lack thereof; it makes others feel at ease or makes them want to shut up or not talk.

  Lastly, here I want to share are five key rules to consider when making an introduction:

1.Stand up

2. Smile

3. Always shake hands firmly

4. Make eye contact

5. Repeat the other person’s name

That al for now thanks for your kindly reading my blog

The Chinese New Year Celebrations



Hola, Assalam

   My entry today I would share some information about the Chinese New Year Celebrations. This new year celebrated by all the Chinese , whatever their religion- Ancestor Worship, Buddhism . Taoism or Christianity.

  The celebration of this New Year is marks at the end of one lunar calendar year and greets the beginning of the next, and all Chinese join in the celebration!

As a rule, the Chinese work extremely hard the whole year through . The only tome that most Chinese take a short, well- earned break is during the Chinese New Year festivities. Here in Malaysia you will find that some Chinese-Malaysians do not turn up for work for as long as two or three weeks.

  On the Chinese New Year eve, a reunion dinner is held which all family members must try to attend. This dinner is of utmost importance because it is the one occasion when everybody in the family can be together.

  Finally, the Chinese New Year visits can go on until the fifteenth day of the new year. This fifteenth day is called Chap Goh Meh by the Hokkien  that is one of the main Chinese dialect groups in Malaysia).

Birth



Hye, Assalamualaikum

  In this entry, I would like to share a topic about Malay Custom for birth (confinement). As soon as the baby is born, both mother and child have to undergo a period of confinement (dalam hari) of forty-four days. During or at this time neither one of them is allowed to leave the house. This is also the time when the new mother undergoes a rather exhausting programmed where she is put on a special diet and is massaged daily so as to restore her to the physical state she enjoyed/happy before the vigorous experience of childbirth.

  On the forty-four day, the confinement end (habis hari). Some of Malays families celebrate this event, others do not; they simply announce that ‘’ So-and –so sudah habis hari’’ (So-and- so is no longer in confinement). A token of thanks such as foods or fruits is usually sent to the mosque.

Lastly, if the mother has a job, she usually goes back any time after this and life for the mother continues as before.  The child starts on his new like now without the restrictions of confinement

Married



Hye, Assalmualaikum

  Today in my blog I will be talking about ‘Malay Wedding Ceremony’. There are  many ceremonies leading up to the actual wedding itself. A foreigner is most likely to be invited to the final ceremony - the Bersanding (sitting-in –state)-in the solemnization of a Malay Wedding. This is most colorful and joyful event where the bridal couple is treated as Royalty-for-the-day(Raja Sehari) and bride or the groom(or both) you may be invited to a few ceremonies preceding the Bersanding ceremony. These could be;

The Hantar Tanda – the statement of intent from the groom’s side

The Akad Nikah – the engagement

The Berinai – the ceremony where henna is painted on the bridge and groom’s palms and fingertips

  Finally, from al the above, the Akad Nikah is the one compulsory ceremony as this is when the couple are religiously and legally declared as husband and wife.

That’s all just from me , enjoy reading.

''The Open House''



Hello, Assalamualaikum

  In this entry I want to explain about ‘The Open House’. First of all, I am really sure that as we  Malaysian have know about it, is actually a time and day set aside for a person to invite his relatives, friends and acquaintances to his house to join in with whatever festivities he happens to be celebrating. Speakers are usually invite to their open house by word of mouth from the host himself or you will receive an invitation card inviting you to this event.

  Whether verbal, non-verbal or by card, the usual time for the open house will be started, example from  6.00 p. m to 9.00 p.m. Please make sure that you show up on time or during this period. As open houses however, we held the whole day through with guests coming and going freely but normally not staying too long. They usually stay just long enough for some refreshments and a chat.

  Lastly, open house can be very large and may even be held in hotels. If you receive ot happen to be invited to an open house that has an R.S.V.P, please treat it as you would treat an invitation from your beloved ones or to any other lunch or dinner. You reply as soon as possible! Invitations for Hari Raya Puasa open houses may be worked as follows;

On: The first day of Hari Raya Puasa

Or

On: The third day of Hari Raya Puasa

Remember, without the actual date because of the uncertainty as to which day the Hari Raya Puasa will actually be !